Brave Mama in My Family Story #10 - Yvette Mystakas

March 21, 2016

Brave Mama in My Family Story #10 - Yvette Mystakas

Isn't it interesting that pregnant mamas get a lot of attention (as they should) from doctors, far-away relatives, even strangers about their well-being. But the moment they've had their babies, they are sort of supposed to be able to handle it all.

Post natal depression (PND) is something very real. Yet, many mums who after giving birth, has no idea they may be going through it. Today we chat with Yvette about her struggle with PND. And the importance of self-care. 

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1. Tell us about yourself, where you are based and a little about your little one(s).

 

My name is Yvette and I am 30 years old and live in Sydney. My husband, Steve and I have been together for almost nine years and married for five. We have a four year old son, Dimitri. I work as an Account Manager in the healthcare sector. I also blog at my site www.sheissacred.net  - where I share my experiences raw, honest accounts of motherhood.

 

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2. What is the most difficult/challenging thing you had to deal with in yourmama-hood journey?

 

My severe post-natal depression (PND) had a huge impact on my family - almost resulting to the end of my marriage with my husband. Dimitri was only two at the time, I had been working full time for almost 18 months, and attempted my Masters (which I ceased during the peak on my PND). We don’t have any help from our families so that has burdened us as we rarely have date nights and time to ourselves. When I was a stay at home mother I felt so distant, isolated with my dark thoughts. I took too much on in that time and thought I could do it all, attempting to distract myself from my PND, yet I was drowning in it, whilst to yearning to be the perfect mum. I felt like I had failed at every decision I made as being a mother, and a wife. All this resulted with me ending up in psychiatric care after attempting to take my own life. There was nothing more embarrassing and shameful having to go so low to the bottom to get back to the top again in life.

 

"When I was a stay at home mother I felt so distant, isolated with my dark thoughts. I took too much on in that time and thought I could do it all..."

- Yvette Mystakas

 

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3. What is the bravest thing you had to do as a mama?

 

The bravest thing I had to do as a mother was to completely sacrifice my future and life career and prepare for motherhood. My life had been tipped upside down. I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant with Dimitri the night before I handed in my honours thesis. I was 26, I had just gotten married five months earlier and was planning to embark my professional career after university. Needless to say that never occurred and I turned down job offers, interviews and job applications. I was petrified as we were not trying for a baby - so I had not mentally prepared myself properly into becoming a parent.

 

"The bravest thing I had to do as a mother was to completely sacrifice my future and life career and prepare for motherhood."

- Yvette Mystakas

 

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4. Is there another brave mama who inspires you? How has she inspired you?

 

My dad’s partner is one incredible woman. She treats me like the daughter she never had and sees my son as her grandson. When I was going through my PND, my psychiatric care and marriage breakdown, she was there for me.

 

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5. What would you say to another mama who may be going through similar circumstances?

 

Be kind to yourself. Self care is so vital. I have mentally and physically abused myself for years because I hated myself so much. The consequences are so ugly. There is nothing more worse than being your own enemy.

 

"Be kind to yourself. Self care is so vital."

- Yvette Mystakas

 

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Don't feel guilty taking care of yourself. Because when your tank is full, then you can pour yourself into the family. If you are tired, take a good rest. If you are finding you cannot manage, ask for help. Your children are important. But so are you fellow mamas. 

Have a restful week. Because you have mountains to move! :)

 

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x Meng

 

PS: If you love the print above, you can download them here

 

 

 

 

You can follow Yvette at:

Instagram handle: http://www.instagram.com/she.is.sacred

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/sheissacred/

 




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