Brave Mama in My Family Story #13 - Kathryn Stary

May 02, 2016

Brave Mama in My Family Story #13 - Kathryn Stary

Most mums would know the brand Blossom and Glow for its comfortable & chic maternity and post maternity wear. Kathryn, the woman behind this awesome brand, is a warm and kind mama. She always has a kind & encouraging word to share, and is very approachable. Like me, she prefers to hide behind the scenes. So having her share her journey with us is definitely something out of her comfort zone and extremely brave. 

I'm so so honoured to have Kathryn share her brave mum journey with us. It's her first time sharing about her son's condition on the social platform and I know she is feeling semi-nervous about it. So if you would, leave her a comment either on the blog or on Instagram, to cheer her on, I'm sure that will help ease her nerves. 

Join me to welcome Kathryn into our Brave Mama in My Family tribe. 

 

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1. Tell us about yourself, where you are based and a little about your little one(s). 

 

In between running Blossom & Glow, and studying, I am raising two boys!  Aged four and two, they are energetic, inspiring, boisterous, and cheeky!  We live in a tiny house in Melbourne’s inner west, but we absolutely love the location and wouldn’t live anywhere else!  

 

I’m also completely addicted to instagram, a bit of a stress head, have an unhealthy obsession with reality TV, and am a recent meditation convert!  

 

 

2. What is the most difficult/challenging thing you had to deal with in your mama-hood journey? 

 

Trying to juggle work, study and personal life has been one of my biggest challenges.  I try really hard not to do too much work when I’m at home with the boys, but sometimes that is really tough!  Getting up before the boys each day has helped, and I’m fortunate to have a supportive partner who looks after the boys for a few hours on the weekend so that I can catch up on work!  I try to minimise the late nights where possible, but haven’t found a way to eliminate them completely. YET!  

 

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3. What is the bravest thing you had to do as a mama?

 

When my firstborn was eight weeks old we found out that he was born with a Congenital Heart Defect. Being someone who had suffered with anxiety in the past, my anxiety levels skyrocketed.  As new parents, it was the shocking news, and I was completely devastated.  I blamed myself and really struggled with it all for quite a long time (I still do to this day, truth be told).    

 

But something amazing truly came out of it all.  My husband and I realised just how precious life is.  After some time processing it all, we were able to put a lot of things into perspective and really learnt not to sweat the small stuff.  We knew that we had to be strong for our son and wanted to give him the most amazing life we possibly could.  Instead of worrying about how small our house was, we became grateful for living in an amazing community in a beautiful location.  Instead of accumulating “stuff”, we became more focused on accumulating memories.  The diagnosis, as awful as it was, was also completely life changing in a positive way.  

 

"Instead of worrying about how small our house was, we became grateful for living in an amazing community in a beautiful location. Instead of accumulating “stuff”, we became more focused on accumulating memories."

- Kathryn Stary

 

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With incredible care from the Royal Children’s Hospital, my son is a beautiful, healthy and happy four year old.  He is regularly monitored at the RCH and is doing brilliantly!  To look at him, you would never know that he was a Heart Kid, and to this day, he continues to defy the odds.  We are super proud of the incredible boy he is, and look forward to watching he and his brother grow into amazing men!

 

 

4. Is there another brave mama who inspires you? How has she inspired you?

 

Honestly, I am so fortunate to have so many beautiful women who continually inspire me! 

 

@kindredthought is an incredible woman.  She shares helpful ways to respond to our own thoughts and feelings when parenting gets tough, encouraging us to be more flexible, kind and accepting.  She has supported me throughout my entire motherhood journey, and I am so lucky to be able to call her one of my best friends!  

 

@thedigitalpicnic also continue to inspire me on a professional level!  These girls are from my hood, and are truly moving mountains!  They are mothers who totally get the highs and lows of motherhood, all while doing amazing things for small business.  They continue to push me to achieve my dreams, and are an incredible example of working mums who are creating empires!  I really admire these ladies!  

 

There are so many other women I could name!  @meohmymum, @_sophiajames_, @eliseraquel, @mrs_paulie_, @hipster_mum, and @amyeshipp, are honestly just a few.  I couple probably write a whole blog post on women who inspire me!  

 

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5. What would you say to another mama who may be going through similar circumstances?

 

I think the best advice I can give is just to be kind to yourself.  Motherhood is a TOUGH gig!  It’s undoubtably the hardest job I’ve had, but it’s also the most amazing.  Don’t beat yourself up when you’re having a hard day - know that we all have them.  Enjoy the little things.  The simple things.  It’s not easy, but you don’t have to be the perfect pinterest mum to raise amazing people.  Join your kids when they jump in puddles, make mud pies, and sit down and enjoy a cup of hot coffee.  You deserve it.  x

 

"Don’t beat yourself up when you’re having a hard day - know that we all have them.  Enjoy the little things.  The simple things."

- Kathryn Stary

 

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The simple things that we do each day may seem insignificant at that moment in time, but can hold so much memories, and mean so much to our little ones. As mums, we sometimes get so busy over getting the children ready for school, shuttling them between school and play dates or classes, trying to get the chores done, fitting work into the already busting to-do list, we forget to be in the moment. I know I forget. Let's take time this week to make mud pies, jump in the puddles and enjoy our coffee/tea (hot or cold)!

Mother's Day is less than a week away, and as we look forward to celebrating this special day, let's not forget that Mother's Day may be a painful one for some friends and family. 

This week, as a random act of kindness, if you know someone who needs a bit of cheer because Mother's Day is a tough one for them, please drop us an email to info@heartinbox.com and we will send a little something to let her know she is not alone, and she is loved. 

Have an awesome week ahead!

x Meng

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can find Kathryn or Blossom & Glow at the following:

Instagram: @blossomandglowmaternity

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Blossom-Glow-346202682185792/

Website: blossomandglow.com.au

Email: info@blossomandglow.au 




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