Brave Mama in My Family Story #14 - Kate Payne

May 16, 2016

Brave Mama in My Family Story #14 - Kate Payne

What do you do when you are told that you are diagnosed with a rare pregnancy condition (one out of 2000 pregnancies), that is life threatening for the baby? 

Today, we speak with Kate from AussieYogaMama who shares with us her brave mama journey and how she overcome the difficulties of the pregnancy condition, pluck up her courage to learn, heal, enjoy and overcome the challenges that the condition threw her way. 

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1. Tell us about yourself, where you are based and a little about your little one(s). 

 

I’m a first time mama to a now 18 month old little boy (Cobi) who absolutely lights up my world. You can find me in Melbourne working as a yoga therapist & hanging out with my soul sista Andy - making me one half of Yoga Mamas and her the other. 

Born and raised in a city renowned for '4 seasons in one day' I regular chase the sunshine & have a healthy addiction to the bean...coffee. 

I didn't believe in soul mates until I met my husband and couldn't fathom soul sistas until I started my yoga journey. 

My days are now spent deep in the trenches of #mumlife, building a yoga biz, drinking copious amounts of coffee, soaking up as much time in nature as possible, singing nursery rhymes and connecting with awe inspiring mamas - feeling like I've finally found my tribe. 

 

2. What is the most difficult/challenging thing you had to deal with in your mama-hood journey? 

 

Mum life has a way of throwing you almost daily curve balls but my biggest was pre-mamahood when I was pregnant with Cobi and at 20 weeks diagnosed with a very rare and potentially life threatening condition called Vasa Praevia*. 

 

It ultimately meant admission to hospital on bed rest at 28 weeks, an emergency caesarian at 34 weeks and a premature baby in the special care nursery, coupled with a decent dose of post traumatic stress. 

 

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From 20 weeks onward I would slowly lose my connection to self. It was as if each layer of my former self was delicately being peeled away allowing for a child and mother to be born simultaneously. When Cobi was born, so was I - as a mama. 

My recovery was slow and tedious. Physically & emotionally. 

Cobi had his own challenges, being premature and small he suffered from reflux disease and I had severe maternal fatigue. 

This next chapter of my life was unfolding and I had absolutely no idea how I was going to do it. 

 

"It was as if each layer of my former self was delicately being peeled away allowing for a child and mother to be born simultaneously."

- Kate Payne

 

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*Vasa praevia is an extremely rare but devastating condition in which fetal umbilical cord blood vessels cross or run in close proximity to the inner cervical os (the internal opening in the cervix separating the uterine cavity from the vagina). These vessels course within the membranes, unsupported by the umbilical cord or placental tissue, and are at risk of rupture if the supporting membranes are damaged. Vasa praevia carries a high mortality rate—50percent of undiagnosed cases end in the death of the fetus.

 

3. What is the bravest thing you had to do as a mama?

 

Simply being a mother. Giving my heart & soul to this little man when most of the time I feel like I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. Lucky my intuition kicks in and guides me in the right direction!

Becoming a mama changes you. I wasn't prepared for the challenges, the self-doubt, the overwhelm, the love, gratitude or moments of absolute bliss. 

Each and everyday is a new experience, a new challenge, a new moment of joy. 

The first 12-months was all about learning, healing and accepting. 

 

"Each and every day is a new experience, a new challenge, a new moment of joy."

- Kate Payne

 

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4. Is there another brave mama who inspires you? How has she inspired you?

 

Oh my goodness, every mama inspires me. This is seriously a tough gig. But the ones bringing me the most inspiration right now are those building a biz and saying yes to living a life they desire. I feel empowered by their determination, resilience and grateful to be connecting with so many of them. 

 

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5. What would you say to another mama who may be going through similar circumstances?

 

It takes time. Time to heal. Time to learn. Time to accept. 

Try to create some daily rituals that allow you to connect back to your centre. I use yoga & meditation but find what works for you. Learn to breathe and find stillness amidst the movement and chaos. 

 

"It (The Vasa Praevia & motherhood journey) takes time. Time to heal. Time to learn. Time to accept."

- Kate Payne

 

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Every motherhood journey is so different. Not one is the same. Each one has its own challenges. But every one of them is beautiful. 

I hope you've been encouraged by Kate's story. If you are facing challenges in your motherhood journey, know that you are not alone. Reach out. There are lots of beautiful souls out there who will support you and encourage you. And never forget that you are loved. Love drives out fear and gives us, mamas courage to face the everyday.

Have an awesome week ahead brave mamas!

x Meng

 

 

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Connect with Kate at:

Instagram: @aussieyogamama

Facebookwww.facebook.com/yogamamas.com.au

Website: www.yogamamas.com.au 

 




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